tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post4493055238973254191..comments2023-09-11T18:53:16.686+10:00Comments on idle persiflage: I spy with my little eyepersiflagehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05161607100227748374noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-82801919061090150972010-03-23T18:17:27.041+11:002010-03-23T18:17:27.041+11:00Thanks, Laura, I will certainly take that advice.
...Thanks, Laura, I will certainly take that advice.<br />The separation of children from parents, albeit well-meant, was alarmingly common, and the effects lingered long after the event.persiflagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05161607100227748374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-89018544497856343362010-03-23T11:36:53.865+11:002010-03-23T11:36:53.865+11:00There were certainly many 'crimes' against...There were certainly many 'crimes' against children and the way they were, and are, still treated. How very sad for your little brother. <br />I hope you get some help with Dr P. I also feel very bad tempered if Ihave to continually shout, and was so relieved when Gom got some hearing aids.Meggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13074676856646898900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-88921316558882958252010-03-22T16:40:14.000+11:002010-03-22T16:40:14.000+11:00That is a tragic story about your brother, that th...That is a tragic story about your brother, that three weeks of separation caused such harm. One wonders if there wasn't some intrinsic issue brewing already. So sad.<br /><br />My sister was hospitalised in 1970 with rheumatic fever, when she was 7-ish. She spent 6 weeks in the childrens hospital and a further 2 weeks in a convalesent home and it pains and distresses her to talk about it now. She is the second of four (I am the eldest) and the youngest was about 6 months old, so it was pretty hard for Mum to get to hospital with short visiting hours, and we weren't all allowed to see her. I remember spending time playing in the outside grounds waiting for parents.<br /><br />When my youngest was hospitalised for 6 weeks from birth, and at various times afterwards she was dedicated to my older child (3 years) and cared for him, often berating me for 'rejecting' him. It is a source of some hurt between us. Yet I understand that she suffered terribly from family separation during her hospitalisation. <br /><br />When I did my child nursing in recent years I had a very distressing episode of caring for a child of 5 years in the same bed on the same ward as she was in, and he was suffering from family separation very badly. I had flashbacks to many distressing episodes of my life, and it was very confusing and salutary to be so vulnerable. It was very tough.<br /><br />I hope the ACAT assessment brings some relief. Remember, when assessing, allow them to see the things that happen on the worst day. It is pointless putting on a front. Its hard, but necessary, in order to get the help you both need.<br /><br />Thinking of you....Laura Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13299523378009842115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-61310507466939812852010-03-21T22:06:29.104+11:002010-03-21T22:06:29.104+11:00Hi Persiflage, my email is 6thinline@gmail.com. I...Hi Persiflage, my email is 6thinline@gmail.com. It ought to reach me there.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-46235291320013359892010-03-21T21:57:35.808+11:002010-03-21T21:57:35.808+11:00I did not mean to give the impression that my eyes...I did not mean to give the impression that my eyesight is almost kaput. My good eye is fine, and the cataracts are in the early stages.<br />I think probably my parents did visit me. I cannot really remember, but I was at an age when I could understand what was happening to me, unlike all those unfortunate tiny babies and toddlers.<br />Hello Frances, and thanks for your comments. You are lucky to be able to wear high heels without discomfort or damage, but I still maintain that they are not good for the feet! And why do men not wear them?<br />Elisabeth, I tried to email you but it did not work. I am technologically challenged.persiflagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05161607100227748374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-68928258233902587052010-03-21T20:49:21.355+11:002010-03-21T20:49:21.355+11:00What a sad tale.
The theory used to be that family...What a sad tale.<br />The theory used to be that family visitors would 'upset' little children in hospital - and also in boarding schools. When left alone children would 'settle' and be less trouble.<br />The saddest part of all is that the adults using these techniques really thought they were doing it in the child's best interestsRelatively Retiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-65508683308180369282010-03-21T05:06:14.231+11:002010-03-21T05:06:14.231+11:00My brother (in 1951)also had an eye op and my pare...My brother (in 1951)also had an eye op and my parents weren't allowed to visit him. He was three. My mother sent him in a toy and the nurses gave it to him but didn't tell him where it came from. Unbelievable. <br /><br />How very sad about your brother.Pam https://www.blogger.com/profile/12641269043817163165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-69025246812384678762010-03-19T20:55:20.756+11:002010-03-19T20:55:20.756+11:00Erum, (shuffles), excuse me for eavesdropping.......Erum, (shuffles), excuse me for eavesdropping....Persiflage: I have read many of your posts, and enjoyed them.<br /> <br />My father was many years older than my mother, and I saw the sorely tested loyalty and love and frustration, anger and fear that was involved in her caring for him until his death. And witnessed the sense that these endless years that she gave to his increasing frailty were at the bitter cost of being the last that she felt she had of being vibrant and independent.<br />I heard her raise her voice at him, although we advised lowering her voice to the low register that the deaf can hear more readily.<br /> <br />Different topic: I have to strongly disagree with you about high heels.<br />How can you waltz, foxtrot or even rock and roll except on the balls of your feet?<br />High heels make me feel as if I am dancing.<br />The thought that they could be perceived as an attempt to look or be perceived as "sexy", is repellant. <br /><br />Aged tho' I feel,my toes are straight, my ankles slim, my feet sound, and I hope to wear high heels, and walk and dance on the balls of my feet, when I am Dr P's age.Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588049222095187200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-65525961402379297422010-03-19T01:15:30.869+11:002010-03-19T01:15:30.869+11:00I think the question: 'Can you see the tip of ...I think the question: 'Can you see the tip of your nose?' is an inadequate diagnostic tool. Perhaps because I cannot either.<br />The cost of medical/health technology question, I think, needs to be promoted to some aussie Dept: may haps thedept of Health and Aging.<br />Sorry to hear about the cataracts, but you may as well put dr Ps pots of money to good and effective use (how (and who) else will you care for him, etc) and come for a visit, whilst consulting with and engaging these people: http://www.vistaeyes.com.au/types-of-procedures/non-laser-vision/restor-iol.html Your private health cover may well cover this and re-imburse Dr. Ps pots.<br /><br />Those old Hospital policies smack of laziness or under resourcing or lack of care/understanding. Reading it made my stomach drop, what a disgusting practice. Administrators of those establishments should rightfully be ashamed. Disgusting, I say!<br />Thanks for putting off your surgery for me though. :)Zenomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07852439113464250201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-41446819989061922962010-03-17T21:44:50.081+11:002010-03-17T21:44:50.081+11:00I found the history of your eyesight quite fascina...I found the history of your eyesight quite fascinating, although I commiserate on the cost of glasses and hearing aids, etc. I am perplexed by the various ways in which government funding does and doesn't apply -- my younger sister, having had free hearing aids and audiology appointments ever since her first hearing loss was diagnosed, was cut off at age 21 as that is the policy. Seems a bit mean, since it's not as if she has stopped being hearing impaired.<br /><br />Those are very sad stories about you and your brother being left alone in institutions. I am glad that practices have changed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301215723729061662.post-29740293658357999242010-03-16T23:08:24.218+11:002010-03-16T23:08:24.218+11:00Oh dear, Persiflage. I'm sorry to hear about ...Oh dear, Persiflage. I'm sorry to hear about your eyesight and even more sorry to hear about your brother. It's so sad. In the 1950s there were a couple of child therapists, called the Robertsons in England. They did a study on children in brief separation from the parents between the ages of around one and three years. They filmed the experience. <br /><br />It is harrowing to watch footage of this research, small children devastated by the sudden disappearance of their parents, particularly their mothers. In those days people did not realise as much as we do today the significance of early attachment.<br /><br />My heart bleeds for your brother.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.com